New York State Funeral Directors Association

"Sorry, but I don't have any time to meet you for coffee next week, but I do know that if you were to die next week, I would make the time for your funeral. So, as long as you are still alive next week, I would have to say no."

Of course we don't actually say these words to our loved ones, friends and co-workers, but we do often live like this.

Buffet of Food Items

I hope beef stew is still on the menu years from now so my great-great-great nephew can experience a little bit of my life, if only for a moment.

I imagine he’ll push a few sliced carrots out of the way while digging through the bowl before scooping up a warm chunk of savory beef covered with gravy.

I’ll argue that food is among the top three best things in life – and one that should always be placed into an obituary.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

Video: Family History

Today, resources are becoming more widely available, giving people the ability to learn exciting stories about their ancestors. Find 14 great tips on the Blog.


SympathyNotes is written to stimulate discussion of death and grief. Opinions do not reflect the views of NYSFDA.

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