New York State Funeral Directors Association

Master Sgt. Shana Cobbs poses for a photo in front of the George Bush 4141 Locomotive Dec. 3, 2018, in Spring, Texas.

Having served in the Arkansas Air National Guard as a member of the 189th Services Flight for the past 19 years; a police officer with the North Little Rock police department for more than 16 years; and a Special Agent with Union Pacific for the past 3 years, Master Sgt. Shana Cobbs knows a thing or two about commitment to duty.

Recently, her job as a special agent with Union Pacific provided her with a unique opportunity to participate in a special assignment that she says she feels that she was uniquely prepared to handle.

We all gotta go sometime.

For most of us, that time is later: eight, nine decades of wringing out every last drop of life, if we’re lucky.

A few tucks here, a little dye there, hours at the gym, smaller meals, and we might manage to get a year or two more – although, as Barbara Ehrenreich reminds in her new book “Natural Causes,” you can run from your own mortality, but you can’t hide.

Field of flowers

A lady learned of a dear friend’s passing and read in the obituary – much to her dismay – a request that no flowers be sent.

She wondered why in a post on an online chat room, saying she planned to “comply” with the family’s wishes but “can’t help thinking that it’s sad not to give someone a send off with flowers.”

I couldn’t agree more.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

Video: Family History

Today, resources are becoming more widely available, giving people the ability to learn exciting stories about their ancestors. Find 14 great tips on the Blog.


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