New York State Funeral Directors Association

Adult Funeral Procession By Willam P. Chappel, From the Metropolitan Museum of Art.

I was a young teen when my good friend’s grandfather passed away, and, as was typical for me, I didn’t know what to do or say.

So being asked to serve as a pallbearer on the day of the funeral was fulfilling. I felt that I could, at the very least, play some role during that difficult day.

It didn’t take long until I realized how difficult the day was going to be.

Your mother can speak on just about any subject. Family issues, money, old music, new technology, cooking, fashion, she’ll teach you all day.

Ask her about one certain topic, though, and her lips are sealed tight but with “Talking About Death Won’t Kill You” by Dr. Kathy Kortes-Miller, you can school Mom on a thing or two.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

Video: Family History

Today, resources are becoming more widely available, giving people the ability to learn exciting stories about their ancestors. Find 14 great tips on the Blog.


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