New York State Funeral Directors Association

Family Argument

No matter how skillful a funeral director might be, there is no predicting how a particular family dynamic might disrupt an otherwise well-planned and dignified funeral or memorial service.

Hundreds of firefighters gathered in the warm autumn sun at the New York State Capitol to honor their peers who lost their lives protecting others.

In 2015, eight new names were added to the massive granite wall of honor at the state’s Fallen Firefighters Memorial, a place of respect that welcomes a crowd each year to Empire State Plaza.

The somber October ceremony brings firefighters, elected officials and residents together to voice gratitude, memorialize the dead and express appreciation to family members who lost their loved one to the service of fellow citizens.

Sadness, depression, guilt, emptiness – people endure a lot of feelings after the death of somebody close. That’s really not anything new.

If you follow news related to funerals and memorialization, you might be led to believe people are reaching far and wide to find the right way to “do right” by their loved one.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

Video: Family History

Today, resources are becoming more widely available, giving people the ability to learn exciting stories about their ancestors. Find 14 great tips on the Blog.


SympathyNotes is written to stimulate discussion of death and grief. Opinions do not reflect the views of NYSFDA.

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