New York State Funeral Directors Association

Man sad and alone

From the time little boys are first able to walk, in some cases even before they can walk, parents begin shaping the psyche of their sons by telling them, “Boys don’t cry.”

Oh really… who says so? Whoever it was, they should be prosecuted for the harm they have imposed on men, young and old alike.

Mother and Daughter

My salt and pepper shakers are skulls.

At my wedding, I had skeletons dressed as a bride and groom sitting on my head table. I took monthly maternity photos in a cemetery.

For as long as I can remember, death and its symbols have been woven into my life.

Sometimes, life stinks.

Bad things happen to great people but truly horrible things happen to you - things like losing a loved one, and that’s indescribable.

Your emotions feel like shuffled cards: you’re foggy, sad, angry, exhausted, and tired of dealing with it all. So what do you do next?

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New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

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Today, resources are becoming more widely available, giving people the ability to learn exciting stories about their ancestors. Find 14 great tips on the Blog.


SympathyNotes is written to stimulate discussion of death and grief. Opinions do not reflect the views of NYSFDA.

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