New York State Funeral Directors Association

Anita Freer had career goals decades ago, but she put those aside to focus on raising her family.

And, just like the late First Lady, Barbara Bush, Freer carried with her the grief of losing a young child.

Though she’d put her personal goals aside, Freer raised children and grandchildren and had no regrets by the age of 72.

When Barbara Bush passed away, she lost a role model.

Funeral Director Stephenie Nowak Bernius and Daughter Katerina

Being a funeral director can be exhausting, it is a 24 hours a day, 365 days a year job.

Being a mom can be exhausting, it is a 24 hours a day, 365 days a year job.

I am both.

Funeral Director Rosemary Fisher and Daughter Addy

When I was asked to write about how I balance being a mother and a funeral director, I immediately felt two things.

I was flattered to even be considered to have found balance (fake it ‘til you make it!). And I felt guilty that part of me wanted to try to find a way to say “no.”

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

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