New York State Funeral Directors Association

Rendering of Tow Truck Driver on Spirit Ride Casket

I wasn’t far from where I was headed when I heard a popping sound that stood the hair up on the back of my neck.

I had to hit the brakes, put on the hazard light and move my way over to the tiny shoulder of the road.

It was a flat tire.

Funeral Director Michael J. Cushman, Peg Cushman and sons Robert H. and William T. Cushman of Rhoney Funeral Home in Niagara Falls

Editor's Note: Peg Cushman previously shared this article with the Buffalo News

Death is a part of life that everyone experiences at one time or another; for my husband, my two sons and myself, it’s almost on a daily basis.

Most boys dream of becoming sport stars, astronauts or firefighters.

My husband’s aspiration was to become a funeral director.

Some of the late Dorothy "Bobbie" Joslin's Plants are Now Cared For by Her Daughter and Son-in-Law

My grandfather’s grandfather, Willard, sold things to people in his community – apples, lumber and other goods.

I’m not sure if he had a store at his farm or whatnot, I just know he kept records of what he sold and who he sold it to because I have a couple of the small ledgers he used for jotting down details.

Like most of the family history stuff I keep, they’re all locked up in fireproof containers.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

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