New York State Funeral Directors Association

View of computer screen - there are numerous helpful resources to help with grief on the popular video channel YouTube

There isn’t a whole lot people can say to friends or family in the days following the loss of a loved one.

Being there for them to talk, taking some of the burden of daily tasks off their shoulders or bringing over some food are all great suggestions that have been passed along.

These things don’t take away the pain, but they strengthen the much-needed feeling that people aren’t alone and emphasize that there are others who care and are ready to help.

View of Book Cover, Spoiler Alert: The Hero Dies by Michael Ausiello ©2017 Atria

Just like in the movies, you’d planned to grow old together.

You’d be the couple everyone smiled at: two wrinkled beings, holding hands, fussing good-naturedly at one another.

Still in love, like the movies, til death do you part - but then, as in the new memoir “Spoiler Alert: The Hero Dies” by Michael Ausiello, someone changes the script.

Collage combines the profile photos of former slaves in America. These individuals were interviewed as part of the project “Born in Slavery: Slave Narratives from the Federal Writers Project.” From the Library of Congress. The individuals, Left-to-right are: William Moore, Mary Kincheon, James Johnson and Sarah Ashley. May they all rest in peace.

New York State was a destination for many freed and escaped slaves before and after the Civil War.

But occupants of the Empire State hosted their share of people who were considered property and lived a life of toil and torment.

In the past these people were mostly unnamed, faceless figures pooled into a category: Slaves.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

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