New York State Funeral Directors Association

Funeral Director Stephenie Nowak Bernius and Daughter Katerina

Being a funeral director can be exhausting, it is a 24 hours a day, 365 days a year job.

Being a mom can be exhausting, it is a 24 hours a day, 365 days a year job.

I am both.

Funeral Director Rosemary Fisher and Daughter Addy

When I was asked to write about how I balance being a mother and a funeral director, I immediately felt two things.

I was flattered to even be considered to have found balance (fake it ‘til you make it!). And I felt guilty that part of me wanted to try to find a way to say “no.”

Funeral Director Nicole LaRue, husband Steve and sons Zakkary and Alexander

My name is Nicole M. LaRue, thirty-six years old, the daughter of William J. and Shelley A. Breen.

I am one of twelve children and I graduated from Ogdensburg Free Academy in 2001.

Every day I play two very special roles.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

Video: Family History

Today, resources are becoming more widely available, giving people the ability to learn exciting stories about their ancestors. Find 14 great tips on the Blog.


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