New York State Funeral Directors Association

We all gotta go sometime.

For most of us, that time is later: eight, nine decades of wringing out every last drop of life, if we’re lucky.

A few tucks here, a little dye there, hours at the gym, smaller meals, and we might manage to get a year or two more – although, as Barbara Ehrenreich reminds in her new book “Natural Causes,” you can run from your own mortality, but you can’t hide.

Field of flowers

A lady learned of a dear friend’s passing and read in the obituary – much to her dismay – a request that no flowers be sent.

She wondered why in a post on an online chat room, saying she planned to “comply” with the family’s wishes but “can’t help thinking that it’s sad not to give someone a send off with flowers.”

I couldn’t agree more.

Shells fall to the deck as smoke from the funeral volley gun shots lingers and the sound of a 24-note bugle call begins to fill the air.

Sailors aboard the Nimitiz-class aircraft carrier USS John C. Stennis (CVN 74) stand in silence as the sounding of taps gently moves across the otherwise silent decks, commemorating those who have passed during a burial at sea, Nov. 9.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

Video: Family History

Today, resources are becoming more widely available, giving people the ability to learn exciting stories about their ancestors. Find 14 great tips on the Blog.


SympathyNotes is written to stimulate discussion of death and grief. Opinions do not reflect the views of NYSFDA.

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