New York State Funeral Directors Association

It was not the way things were supposed to be.

As a teenager, you’d mapped out your life with a timetable.

You’d travel there, visit this, see things you wanted to see and experience that which you desired before resuming your schedule. It would be a meaningful life, filled with adventure.

There’s a lot written online about ways to manage the ashes of a loved one who has been cremated.

It’s enough information, really, to make you dizzy.

Articles on the topic often include numbers in them – a dozen ways to sprinkle a loved one’s ashes, ten interesting places people have spread ashes, 15 unique containers to hold ashes, seven new pieces of jewelry to store ashes, eight wonderful tattoos made with a loved one’s ashes … and so on.

A terminal diagnosis is not only shocking but also feels like the end of the world where you and your loved ones are concerned.

However, it is a time, too, to reflect on giving the best palliative care to a dying relative.

Having dignity while being free from pain and discomfort is the ‘best’ thing you can offer.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

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