New York State Funeral Directors Association

Mother and daughter chatting with grandfather

I am a licensed funeral director/embalmer in two states, I own a funeral home and I am a licensed grief counselor.

Oddly enough, I cannot get my father to talk to me about his preferences for funeral arrangements.

I am his oldest daughter, the one responsible for that sort of thing.

Cover of "Option B," © 2017 Knopf

You never chose this life.

It wasn’t what you signed on for. It absolutely wasn’t what you wanted, but the decision was out of your hands.

This life was foist upon you, like it or not (mostly not).

View of Book Cover for Death: An Oral History ©2016 Pulp, an imprint of Zest Books

You haven’t printed out your tickets yet.

No worries, though; the trip you’re taking doesn’t require them.

You’re going somewhere where there are no storm delays, no souvenirs, no fancy restaurants, and accommodations will be a surprise.

Video: Slaves No More

New York's Capital Region honors, re-buries Colonial-era slaves. Found by accident in an unmarked cemetery, scientists pinpointed their African origin and the community held a wake and funeral.

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